Live your best life now.

Live your best life now.

How much time do you have left? Exactly. You don’t know. All you and I can do is plan. Have you been planning to one day live your best life? Have you been slaving away, foregoing fun just to live later? If so, stop it right now!

It is time to do inventory on how you spend your time which equates to how you spend your life. Make no mistake about it. You only live once. You have got to figure out how to work and connect in such a way that you are taking full advantage of your time. Since it is a resource that is unreplenishable, you have to use it wisely. Makes sense right?

Now, how does one truly live? It’s different for each of us. But, what I do know is you and I can live better than we do today, be better than we are today and love better. It’s a choice. So, choose to get up, get out, and LIVE! Live now. Later is not promised.

Not sure where to start?

#doitanyway

Chasing Destiny

Chasing Destiny

Can you taste it, smell it, see it? The “it” of which I speak is Your Destiny. If you cannot, you will not possess it. What wakes you up, keeps you up, and is always on your mind to do and make known to the world? That’s a clue. It’s called your purpose. Destiny is where performing your purpose will take you. We all have one. Some of us are too scared to walk in our purpose, some are still trying to figure it out, and others just Do It Anyway! Which one are you? 

Don’t feel bad if you’re afraid. Afraid is good energy misdirected. Instead of focusing on the “how”, focus on your “why” and “The Who” which is God because God will guide you. I know it’s scary, but trust me, you want to go on this journey. So, say yes today to a journey you can’t see, to the details being hidden, and to the glimpse of glory He’s given you. 

Go on, start the best chapter of your life. You chasing your destiny will impact many for good. You not chasing your destiny leaves all those folks untouched. Don’t you want to be a light, a blessing, a difference maker? 

Life is so hard at times and full of difficult decisions. Choose the ones that give you peace even if the details are blurry. Go on, live, chase, do!

Do It Anyway!

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m ecstatic to be single.

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m ecstatic to be single.

This may or may not relate to you, but I am thankful to not be in the wrong relationship. See, I was in one for three years and even though we celebrated Valentine’s Day, something was always “off”. Just wasn’t right. It wasn’t my forever live, but U tried to make it work. I am now, however, owning my new found freedom and choosing me over a relationship just for the sake of relationship. Now, it didn’t always feel that way, but the nice gifts and someone to do stuff with were motivation to keep trying to resuscitate a dead horse. Lol! Look, being single is not a punishment. It is life giving. Being married is a blessing for most and for some, it is sheer hell right now. What I’m saying is don’t skip one season to get to the next. All seasons have their ups and downs. Love on you right where you are. Enjoy your life right now . Travel , study new things, meet new people, make new friends , LIVE!!!

Having a boo, A bae, a man/woman is awesome when there is no drama or sorrow. Wait on your good thing. In the meantime, don’t let a commercial holiday make you feel small. Go on and live. Get the girls/guys together and go rollerblading, to a movie, shopping, have a cookout (if it’s cold where you are a dinner party), chat, play board games, etc. Just don’t pine away today eating chocolate and missing out on your life! Thinking right isn’t good enough. I know my mate better be somewhere living and enjoying his life. Why would I want a sourpuss for a mate? Get it?

You are amazing, and one day someone will see that. Until then, love on you and have the time of your life. Do t forget you have a purpose for being here and it’s not just to marry and have babies.

Being single is hard sometimes.

Do It Anyway!

So you messed up. Keep going!

So you messed up. Keep going!

I hear a lot of people putting themselves down lately. I’m on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram (as well as here with this lovely blog ), and people, as social media is- share. They share their journey. I listen. I try to encourage. All our journeys have expiration dates. Don’t let your life expire un-lived wallowing in the past. See, I have had my ups and downs, too. But, I just want it known that life being hard does not mean it’s reason for you to stay stuck in a repeated self defeating state. You are more than a mistake. Get up! Get going! And live! God says to His creation we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Believe that and live!

No one knows your whole journey and it’s none of our business. But, you are still here and that means you survived. So, you messed up! Keep going. We all made mistakes. That’s life. You must learn from them, never commit them again, and move forward. What goals do you have? Work on them. What dreams do you dream? Bring them to life? Who is in your corner? Love them. What are you blessed with right now? Appreciate it.

No wallowing in self pity. Get up and get going. Life is to be lived. Motivated yet? Good!

Do It Anyway!

5 Reasons Why You Need Organization

5 Reasons Why You Need Organization

I have been paying close attention to myself and others as I grow as an entrepreneur and delve deeper into my gifts and encourage others in theirs. It has become evident that if I and if You do no get organized, the purpose we are called to fulfill will not get done. l don’t care if it concerns work, family, church, athletics, or cleaning the house. If we are not organized or have a plan, we will fail. Sure, some succeed. I mean lets face it, most of us have learned how to knock things out in the home stretch (procrastinate). But what about not stressing and being successful? Wouldn’t that be nice! So, if you said yes, let’s get serious and get organized.

5 Reasons why you need to get organized:

1. You get more done
Not saying anything new here. We just need to be productive. Lack of organization messes with your mental space. If the physical is a “hot mess” you will get nada done. Clear the cutter. Then, you will see how easy and stress less it is to be creative and work better. Knowing where everything is and being able to grab it without a possee is a good feeling. So, get organized, so you can get more done.

2. The quality of your work increases
I don’t know about you, but when I am organized, I can do a million more things. I’m the kind of person that needs the kitchen clean first in order to cook. I clean as I go along cooking so there’s less mess at the end. But when I sit to write, I also have to have my writing area clean. I need quiet. I need all my supplies. I need time, do I’ve carved it out. What about you? Do you know what you need in order to be more productive? Try organization. I bet you will never go back to working in a tornado again. Lol! You know what I mean. The desk that has everything on it but what you need. Fix it asap.

3. You avoid distraction
Oh this one right here is good! All that clutter=distraction. Pictures and cell phones and email, etc. will distract you. Remove them. Turn off the TV. Get organized and decide what your thinking space must have and what it cannot have. You need focus and distraction is the enemy of focus. Get organized and you’ll avoid distraction. Make a point to remove all distractions.

4. You can adjust quickly if needed
If you need to switch gears to work on another task, you can do so easily because you are??? #organized Yep, not a hard one here. Get yourself together. Carve out your time and you will be able to complete one task and move on to the next. No looking for the next thing. It’s already penciled in to be next. It’s already neatly laid put or filed.

5. Clarity
Being organized breeds clarity. It’s true. Once you have your schedule set and space clear, you will find it easy to get clear on what your good ideas are and what you should do next. I don’t know what you need, but I know you can get clear quicker in a clean environment.

So, I hope you have been inspired to get it together. There is still so much to discuss on this topic, but get organized so you can experience these five. You don’t have to work so hard. Get the things done in yo uh know you need to, so life can be smooth.

Whether it’s with your kids, on your job, or in your own business, organization is crucial to your success.

It takes time. It’s not easy to change your ways.

Do It Anyway!

4 Signs you are too busy for your own good

4 Signs you are too busy for your own good

Have you noticed that although you are very busy, you are not getting as much done? Or, in other words, you are being busy, but you are not being effective. I have, and it is costly. Don’t get me wrong, we all have stuff that must get done. What I’m saying is learning what needs to get done now and what can get done later has to constantly be evaluated for you to be effective. There will always be interruptions. Get over it. But, every interruption is not a pivotal task to complete right now. Women, especially pride themselves on being mulit-taskers. I tout this all the time myself. But, really I’m tired. Lol. I would really like to not have to do 5 things at once all the time. I just want to do one. And what ensues when we are too busy is what the post is about.

I said to myself, “I have to start sorting these tasks”, and I did. I thought about what is priority and listed them. Then I decided which ones have to get done and which ones can wait. My life isn’t perfect, but if you have any of these signs, you gotta take a chill pill.

I have come up with 4 Signs you are doing too much or rather, how being busy is stealing your life.

1. Your mind is constantly going

Ever had this one? You go to bed but cant sleep? Your mind is racing and you cant turn it off? Yep. You are officially doing too much and need to stop it now. I had this when I was working on my Masters in Spanish. A million things to do, kids to raise, my job to plan and do, etc. Don’t mention housework and feeding myself and children. It was hectic. Until I (this was my cure) prayed. Yep. I prayed. I said to God to help me balance my life and get some sleep. From then I learned to list what I could do and start deciding what had to be done an what could wait. Oh, and of course prayer works every time!
2. You are tired, cranky, and forgetful

If you are here, you’ve got to take a 10 minute step away at least from what you are doing and “woosah”. Barking at people won’t get the tasks done. It will get you unliked quickly. We don’t want that. Get some rest. Lay the list down. I have found that when we get to forgetting things, we are going 100 miles an hour and we should be going 20. Calm down. Take a break. Maybe even a day to get clarity on what you need to do and what can wait. Only you know, but spare us the attitude. We got lists, too.
3. You know you don’t want to do the thing but can’t say NO

Oh this one right here is golden. Yes, we women especially have the inability to say this two letter word at any given moment- NO. But it is so simple and brings so much peace. Yet, we struggle. Let me tell you, if you are here, you’ve got to stop taking care of and saving everybody else’s projects and fix your own. I don’t care what it is, if you are tired, full to the brim with stuff to do, say NO! Nothing good will come of you overworking yourself but you overworking yourself. When you have to take a week off because you’re sick then what? Ok. That was extreme. Surely, you won’t get so run down from working that you wear yourself into a vacation with no fun in it? Say No instead of yes to everything that comes your way, it’ll bless you and they will find a way to still get it done. I promise.  #experience
4. Your schedule is bulging at the seams

You can look at your phone calendar and see it. Your legal pad is full. You are overwhelmed and your schedule has no room. Look, working is good. Providing for your family is good. Going all the time is not good. You’ve got to learn to balance. It is very interesting that God built in a Sabbath. He knew we would try to overdo it. So, He commanded us to rest. If you can’t keep up and you’re kind of mad about it, let something go. Sure, folks don’t like to hear “no”, but they’ll live. Rest. God said so!

Well, did any of these resonate with you? If so, “stop what you’re doing cause you’re about to ruin”…your life! Chill out! Take a chill pill. Let it go. Do you! Being busy is not winning. BEING PRODUCTIVE IS WINNING. Learn the difference.

On the road of life, it get’s tough. Schedules get hectic. Life is busy. But, guess what? You will make it!

Do It Anyway!

Why Moving On is All You Can Do

Why Moving On is All You Can Do

It’s the new year and new love springs forth, some old loves have fizzled, and the “rock steady’s” are still in love. Wherever you are on the love continuum, remember, it’s a process. Everything is a season, and sometimes seasons end. Sometimes when we’re hurt or sad about and end, we want to wallow in it. Sometimes, we miss the memo that the mourning period is over and it’s (been) time to move on. If you’re there, I encourage you to take time to grieve, breathe, and heal. But then, MOVE ON. All that is meant for you will STAY. You won’t have to beg, borrow, or plead with him or her. It’ll be peaceful. You’ll know it.

Real love won’t leave. Mature people get that. People seeking love and who know how to love they also know how to nurture it, respect it. You won’t have unrequited love or crazy love when LOVE really comes. So guess what, moving on is what you need to do.

If you had a facsimile of love, know that you’re due the REAL deal. See it, believe it, wait on it, and LIVE your life NOW. Sometimes, you just gotta move on and LIVE. Sure, that person was amazing and you messed up. LIVE! What would you gain going back to dysfunctional, depressing, “missing something”, “not quite right”, etc,? I’m waiting… (Taps fingers on desk) Right! Nada! Go on and LIVE! Put on your big boy or big girl undies and move on. Go be you! Take the lessons you learned as guideposts and do better next time around. DO NOT miss life looking back. LIVE! You have love to give. You just gotta find who wants it. And trust me, you have a match out there.

Life sucks sometimes. Love hurts sometimes. Letting go is hard.

Do It Anyway!

4 reasons your resolutions don’t work and what to do instead

4 reasons your resolutions don’t work and what to do instead

So, I’m not saying resolutions aren’t good, I’m simply saying they do not last. How many times have you made resolutions only to chuck them to the side a few weeks or, if you’re lucky, a few months later? Well, I’ll answer for you- every year. At least, I have. So, if this has been your story isn’t it time you change it?

Here are 4 reasons to chuck your resolutions:

1. They do not last
Again, I say how many y times have you started and stopped? Isn’t it time to actually finish? Make a change that you keep to yourself and you remove to accountability from friends, trainers, and family and put it on YOU. This is why I am mum on what I’m doing. You will see it in my “glow”. Find yours! It’s worth it!

2. They are too big to sustain
I’m 255 but in 2 weeks I’m going to be 200.” Now, I was stretching and not poking fun. You see, your goals must be realistic or they will be too big to sustain. Plenty people have plans online you can download to help you plot your goals realistically. Do some research and pick what you like.

3. You lose interest
Come on. No more fad diets, budgets, get rich scans, etc. I won’t call the names, but you need real change. You need mind over matter. You need to be fed up, and then it will work. You need goals you won’t forget about. Ask yourself the hard question: What do I really want? And then move.

4. You don’t mean them
What do I mean “You don’t mean it!” Well, think about all the messages you get from TV and family and friends about weight, exercise, budgets, life balance, dating, etc. As you can see part of your resolutions come from outside of you. Wouldn’t it be best to instead make permanent change? Change that you mean? If you (and I)meant them, why did we stop? Read on.

At the end of 2014. I tweeted that I would not make any New Year’s Resolutions and that I would simply make permanent change. I even said I would not share my desires. I would only do them. Now, I haven’t hit on anything you don’t already know. I am simply saying why don’t we collectively let it go and choose us. It being the wrong reasons to do what we want. Let’s choose our happiness and things that positively affect us. We don’t have to share. We just need to do it ourselves. Sure. Having a friend that you are accountable to is an excellent way to help you stay on track. And use them if you need, but do not make lofty resolutions. Make positive, doable CHANGE for YOU and your BABIES. This is what it’s about- family. You being around to be with your family. So in health, in love, in finances, at work, make change. Permanent change!

Life is hard. Busy, and sometimes stressful. But you know what, you’re going to make it.

Do It Anyway!

5 Reasons to be thankful for being alone.

5 Reasons to be thankful for being alone.

As I sit to write this post, I’m reminded that some may think I’ve lost it. I assure you that I have not. Being alone can be tough especially if you parent alone and have to spend the holidays alone. But, I have come to realize over the years that being alone has been the best thing life could have given me (for a season). Let me tell you why, and hopefully, you will see some of your yourself in my experiences below.

1. I get to find out more of who I am.

I moved to Texas and did not date for 3 years. My boys were young and I wanted to focus on raising them. I also wanted to do well at my new job, and I needed space to grow and enjoy my new life. I got closer to God and wouldn’t change a thing about those years. I had no stress. It was a beautiful and much needed time. Truthfully, I was a young single mom and it wasn’t easy, but it was a time filled with peace and new beginnings. When you’ve gone through hell, peace is your most prized possession. So get alone and figure you out. Would you agree?
2. I get to affect my babies positively without interference.

In the absence of the other parent, I know that I have been able to instill my values in my boys. Values that stem from my faith. Had I been in the environment I was, I’m not sure they would have fully picked up just my values. In an effort to not bash their dad, I am just glad they have learned behaviors and values from me. Do you feel the same?
3. I get to figure out what I really want in a mate.

There is nothing like having a few frogs to show you what you really want. Dating allows you time to see what is out there and when what is out there disappoints you, you realize that you have to get real and change what you’re doing. Because I know I want a good man, a godly man, etc. I need to date differently. Every guy that wants my number, is not a potential mate. Only men who, for lack of a better cliché, “Are on my level” need apply. Time alone has given that to me. I have gained the strength I need to demand excellence, respect, and love. Until you are comfortable being alone with you, how can you truly know what you want?
4. I get to work on my dreams, goals, and passions.

My passions drive me all day. I wake up early thinking about blog topics. I have topic ideas everywhere (no lie). I’m always thinking about Spanish. My single parents and what I want to do with women to inspire, enrich, and connect all these are on my mind. This is the season for me to work these dreams because working on my heart’s desires takes a good bit of my free time and energy. When my Boaz (a Biblical figure and redeemer/God-given husband of Ruth) comes, I’ll be ready because what is in me has been able to come out i.e., my purpose, passion, and mission. This means that I will be happy and ready to receive my good man because I’ve been able to chase my dreams with no regrets. Having him will just add to the jubilation. Right? Right.
5. I get to help others.

Being single affords me the opportunity to make my own schedule, go where I want to go, and help others in need. Helping others includes helping at charities, working on my business to support single moms, helping friends, etc. I get to give back and be proud of  it without feeling guilty. Remember, single hood is for a season and if you use it wisely, it can be a fruitful, blessed time of life.

Do any of these ring a bell with you? Are you now seeing alone time as a plus? I hope so. Television, the media, friends, and family will try to tell you that you need someone on your arm ALL THE TIME. But the truth is what you don’t need is another person who hasn’t figured themselves out. You need time to prepare to be the person you know you are – strong, confident, and emotionally ready to love and live again.

Life is hard. Relationships are hard. But, these things do not have to be. Take time out and get to know YOU. You’ll be glad you did.

Do It Anyway!

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Hi! I hope you had a fabulous Thanksgiving. I know I did. I cooked, hung out with my boys, and ate loads of food. Now, I am working on my dream of impacting single moms all over the world. To bring the vision to life, I started a campaign on Tee Spring. Proceeds will help host workshops and provide safe places for single moms to gather vent, connect, and thrive. Will you have a look and see if there is a tee for you or someone you know? I have a tee for every age and designed them with you in mind. Cick here —> http://teespring.com/stores/the-do-it-anyway-store

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XOXO,

Kaydy