Are you a Joseph? 

Are you a Joseph? 

Sometimes, well let me stop lying, a huge part of my life, I’ve felt like there was MORE to me and for me. Feelings can be misleading. True. But, that isn’t this post. This post is my truth, and I believe you’ll see some of you in it as well. I’ve always sensed that I was greater and should be doing greater. Yet, I have not always walked in that calling or lived like it. But, no mas! I took a plunge to live for me, to have my best life, and to go where I felt destiny calling. Now, that transpired over a few years and is still in process. But, I want all of the “Josephs” out there to know that you can run, but you can’t hide from the purpose God has for you.

Better ain’t never hurt nobody! Truth is it takes courage to be more than you are right now. That is why I ask, ‘Are you a Joseph?” Hmmm. Deep, right!? Doesn’t have to be. Are you or are you not living in and on purpose? If not, why?

Joseph is a man in The Bible who had a dream. He shared his dream and was despised because of it. I can identify. When I wanted to learn and then teach Spanish, I got crazy looks and comments. I did it anyway! When I wanted my Masters, they said, “Don’t you already have a Spanish degree?” Yep! I did that anyway, too! When I said I wanted to blog, they said, “”What’s that?” Lol! Listen, you’ve got to stay on course and moving toward your destiny if you want to have your promise.

Joseph knew God told him in a dream he would be exalted and his brothers would one day bow to him. He messed up by sharing that. I’ve done that, too. Have you? But, his brothers did bow. They didn’t know it was their brother they had gotten rid of years before. Teaching point 1: Do not ever think that God gives up on His promises to you. If He said it, it’s coming! Teaching point 2: You need to be careful how you treat folks. Now, Joseph lost his youth due to being thrown in a pit by his brothers and being a slave in a foreign land, but he grew in those trials. Every one of his downs he came through. He trusted God. So, what trial are you in right now? If you know you’ve been given a vision of glory and your now doesn’t match it, keep pressing. Don’t give up. It’s coming!

“Are you a Joseph” is simply calling you to say yes to your destiny no matter how hard it is right now. Joseph rose to 2nd in command in all of Egypt. Now, that’s faith, favor, and fearlessness. Go on! Push through this season and don’t let go until you’ve arrived. Trust God for direction. He’ll give more than you imagined if you trust Him.

Do It Anyway!

Having the talk with your kids.

Having the talk with your kids.

I don’t know about you, but I freaked out for weeks trying to get the nerve up to talk to my boys about sex. Their school wanted to show them a video on puberty, but I wasn’t ready yet. Sound familiar? Lol. All about me! Up to this point, they knew God put the babies in mommy’s belly. What was I to do!

Take a Listen to see what I said as I was interviewed by Shon Hyneman and his wife Londina for their podcast “The Doctor of Love Show”. Shon and Londina are doing great work to help singles and married folk navigate relationships in a healthy way. Check them out! @ShonHyneman @1NurseLove on Twitter and on their blog Neveragainministries.com

 Talk back to me. What do you think? 

Best wishes on the journey! Parenting is not easy. 

Do It Anyway!

Be a blessing. Use your time wisely. 

Be a blessing. Use your time wisely. 

It does not hurt you or me at all to give a smile, a kind word, a listening ear. What it costs is time. I would like to state that we waste so much time doing things that we think are important and do not have enough time for the things and people who really are. Think about it. TV, favorite shows, Social Media, shopping, etc. These are all good things, yet could we shave some time in these areas to be a blessing? I say yes!

I stop at times and say “Lord, help me to spend my time wisely”. I want to make sure I’m not rushing to something that doesn’t matter and I make time to be a blessing. 

Recently, I heard if a friend who has fallen ill. I wanted them to know I loved them and was praying for them. That took time. Time I needed to spend. They appreciated it. It blessed me to be a blessing. It will bless you, too!  What are you not making time for in your life? What can you remove so you can see where to be a blessing?

This is a short post but one where I want to challenge us all to do more with our less.

No time? Look closely. It’s in there.

Do It Anyway! 

Never Give Up

Never Give Up

As you begin your week, remember to take small deliberate steps toward your goals. You won’t achieve all in one day, but as one day turns into the next, you will inch closer to the end goal. Never let a setback be a setup or cause you to miss your comeback. You CAN do this. You are ready for this. Never give up.

Do It Anyway!

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m ecstatic to be single.

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m ecstatic to be single.

This may or may not relate to you, but I am thankful to not be in the wrong relationship. See, I was in one for three years and even though we celebrated Valentine’s Day, something was always “off”. Just wasn’t right. It wasn’t my forever live, but U tried to make it work. I am now, however, owning my new found freedom and choosing me over a relationship just for the sake of relationship. Now, it didn’t always feel that way, but the nice gifts and someone to do stuff with were motivation to keep trying to resuscitate a dead horse. Lol! Look, being single is not a punishment. It is life giving. Being married is a blessing for most and for some, it is sheer hell right now. What I’m saying is don’t skip one season to get to the next. All seasons have their ups and downs. Love on you right where you are. Enjoy your life right now . Travel , study new things, meet new people, make new friends , LIVE!!!

Having a boo, A bae, a man/woman is awesome when there is no drama or sorrow. Wait on your good thing. In the meantime, don’t let a commercial holiday make you feel small. Go on and live. Get the girls/guys together and go rollerblading, to a movie, shopping, have a cookout (if it’s cold where you are a dinner party), chat, play board games, etc. Just don’t pine away today eating chocolate and missing out on your life! Thinking right isn’t good enough. I know my mate better be somewhere living and enjoying his life. Why would I want a sourpuss for a mate? Get it?

You are amazing, and one day someone will see that. Until then, love on you and have the time of your life. Do t forget you have a purpose for being here and it’s not just to marry and have babies.

Being single is hard sometimes.

Do It Anyway!

The Eligibility List

The Eligibility List

By: Bryce Runge

 

The definition of Eligible is:

 

Fit or proper to be chosen; worthy of choice; desirable:    or

Meeting the stipulated requirements, as to participate, compete, or work; to be qualified!!!

 

These words, Not Eligible, Not approved, Not Qualified all has been thrown in my face for many years on many different occasions and I am sure all of you have experienced hearing these words as well. Some examples would be like trying to get a loan and being turned down “Not approved” or applying for a job and “not being qualified” and the two words that really stuck with me over the past decade were “NOT ELIGIBLE”

When I set out on my football journey 12 years ago, I didn’t quite realize what I was walking into. I knew that I had a dream and a goal to return to the football field and by the way when I say return to the football field, I mean there was a 6 year gap from when I played in high school to when I enrolled in junior college.

After playing my first year of at Fullerton Junior College I was offered a full scholarship to South Carolina and to play for College Football Hall of Fame coach, Lou Holtz, but I wasn’t “ELIGIBLE” mainly in part due to my poor decision making while in high school, barely graduating and not taking the SAT’s etc.

I put that disappointment behind me and went on to play another year at Fullerton and ended up getting a full athletic scholarship to the University of Hawaii. I then made a bad decision to leave early and declare for the 2005 NFL draft. Went through pro day, did well, and shortly after, was flown into Buffalo with the hopes of signing an NFL contract…turns out I wasn’t “ELIGIBLE”.

I’m going to skip over the details for now as to why.

A year later, All American Football league came on the scene and I was invited to work out for “Team Texas”…turns out I wouldn’t have been “ELIGIBLE” and I’ll spare the details on that as well, ha ha!!!

With all the “Not Eligible”, “Not Approved” and “Not Qualified” comments that I was faced with clearly had left me with MANY painful disappointments. I couldn’t and I can’t explain WHY I wasn’t in the NFL and quite honestly everyone around me felt the same way…except for God, because certainly my plans weren’t aligned with His and I didn’t know any better because I didn’t have a relationship with Christ during those years of my life.

In Jerimiah 29:11 we can learn and grasp firmly to His words

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you Hope and a Future”

As your relationship with Christ strengthens and builds you begin to see things clearer and have a better understanding. However, if you don’t have that relationship, you can’t see anything beyond your OWN desires and then end up banging our heads against the wall trying to figure out why you aren’t eligible, qualified or approved.

In 2 Corinthians 3:4-5: We are to be confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God.

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The other morning when I was in prayer, begging God to make things right for my son and I and explaining to Him how much it hurts when I’m on the phone with my son and when he starts to cry and say “Daddy, I miss you …Daddy, I want to be with you”

God quickly intervened and said    “Child, I have missed you too”  and when he said that , I literally crumbled and tears poured down my face and it hit me like a ton of bricks, on my knees in tears I asked “God, forgive me of my sins and forgive me for not caring about You for 35 years”

When my son says “I miss you daddy”, I have a better understanding of what God must have felt all those years when I could care less about Him and MORE of others and their approval.

I ran around doing things without a care in the world…and I definitely could care less about God. So every time I put that illegal substance in my body, the multiple times I got behind the wheel heavily under the influence, every girl I became intimate with, the life that I agreed to murder with abortion, everything I stole and every jaw I broke because some guy looked at me wrong… proved that I had NO INTEREST in God. The one who gave me life, the one who created me and this is how I thanked Him; this is how I HONORED Him?

So I question why? How on earth did I escape from all the bad I was doing and how did I not end up dead or in prison, because those that I aligned with, those that I was trying to get on the eligibility list with… guess what, they either ended up dead or prison!

And through it ALL, He was there watching as I disappointed Him, So why God? Why did you spare me?

And again he constantly reminds me

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you Hope and a Future”

I can only imagine what God was thinking when I was out running WILD, but if I were to come up with something it might go like this:

“Oh child, I am sorry that you feel the need to do what you are doing, it hurts me to see the things of which you do, the need to seek eligibility elsewhere, the need to seek others approval, but know that I love you and I forgive you. Besides, there will come a day, when you hit your knees crying for me, to save you, to heal you, to forgive you and when you do AND you will…I will answer your prayers….because, I LOVE YOU”

I wanted so badly to be “Eligible” and I sought after approval like there was NO TOMORROW. That outside approval is literally an addiction; we work to get approval and when we do, we seek more and more because it feels so good and in the meantime, we become ungrateful, disobedient and self-centered. In 2 Timothy 3:2-5 we can really get a clear picture of this type of behavior “people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people”.

True freedom never comes until we fully realize that we don’t need to struggle to get from others what GOD so freely gives us.

Knowing that God loves us, knowing that WE ARE ELIGBLE, WE ARE QUALIFED and WE ARE APPROVED tells us all we need to know and as long as we have Gods approval, we don’t NEED any one else’s approval and in case we forget and lose sight of that, remember that Jesus came and said in John 14:27

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

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God wants our security to be in Him, not in anything else. He is NOT dubious, for he is certain and sure.

In 2 Timothy 2:19,

God’s truth stands firm like a foundation stone with this inscription: “The LORD knows those who are his,” and “All who belong to the LORD must turn away from evil.

God knows that we are not perfect and will never expect us to be either, but what he does expect of us can be found in

Isaiah 55:6-13(MSG)

Seek God while he’s here to be found,     pray to him while he’s close at hand. Let the wicked abandon their way of life     and the evil their way of thinking. Let them come back to God, who is merciful,     come back to our God, who is lavish with forgiveness.

“I don’t think the way you think.     The way you work isn’t the way I work.”          “For as the sky soars high above earth,     so the way I work surpasses the way you work,     and the way I think is beyond the way you think. Just as rain and snow descend from the skies     and don’t go back until they’ve watered the earth, Doing their work of making things grow and blossom,     producing seed for farmers and food for the hungry, So will the words that come out of my mouth     not come back empty-handed. They’ll do the work I sent them to do,     they’ll complete the assignment I gave them.

 “So you’ll go out in joy,     you’ll be led into a whole and complete life. The mountains and hills will lead the parade,     bursting with song. All the trees of the forest will join the procession,     exuberant with applause. No more thistles, but giant sequoias,     no more thorn bushes, but stately pines— Monuments to me, to God,     living and lasting evidence of God.”

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I will tell you this, that in Galatians 6:9 we are taught to “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

We must continue to seek God, continue to place Him first in our lives. Know that we are here because God has a purpose for our lives; He has GREAT things in store for us!!! We must understand that we have HIS approval and we don’t need to struggle with getting on anyone else’s “Eligibility List”.

Have an AMAZING DAY!!!

Bryce Runge
About five years ago, one of my goals was to speak to individuals and to share my story and to eventually begin writing my book, but five years ago I wasn’t in any condition to share that story. Looking back on it now, I realize the timing of it had to be right and it had to be God’s timing. I had to endure a lot, overcome many obstacles in order for it to work out and more importantly I’ve had to allow God to be the author, not me. Therefore, my purpose is to use my experiences, to use my story to truly glorify Christ and to do so verbally with those I come into contact with, through my speaking engagements and in my writing.

Find Bryce at BryceRunge.com

5 Reasons Why You Need Organization

5 Reasons Why You Need Organization

I have been paying close attention to myself and others as I grow as an entrepreneur and delve deeper into my gifts and encourage others in theirs. It has become evident that if I and if You do no get organized, the purpose we are called to fulfill will not get done. l don’t care if it concerns work, family, church, athletics, or cleaning the house. If we are not organized or have a plan, we will fail. Sure, some succeed. I mean lets face it, most of us have learned how to knock things out in the home stretch (procrastinate). But what about not stressing and being successful? Wouldn’t that be nice! So, if you said yes, let’s get serious and get organized.

5 Reasons why you need to get organized:

1. You get more done
Not saying anything new here. We just need to be productive. Lack of organization messes with your mental space. If the physical is a “hot mess” you will get nada done. Clear the cutter. Then, you will see how easy and stress less it is to be creative and work better. Knowing where everything is and being able to grab it without a possee is a good feeling. So, get organized, so you can get more done.

2. The quality of your work increases
I don’t know about you, but when I am organized, I can do a million more things. I’m the kind of person that needs the kitchen clean first in order to cook. I clean as I go along cooking so there’s less mess at the end. But when I sit to write, I also have to have my writing area clean. I need quiet. I need all my supplies. I need time, do I’ve carved it out. What about you? Do you know what you need in order to be more productive? Try organization. I bet you will never go back to working in a tornado again. Lol! You know what I mean. The desk that has everything on it but what you need. Fix it asap.

3. You avoid distraction
Oh this one right here is good! All that clutter=distraction. Pictures and cell phones and email, etc. will distract you. Remove them. Turn off the TV. Get organized and decide what your thinking space must have and what it cannot have. You need focus and distraction is the enemy of focus. Get organized and you’ll avoid distraction. Make a point to remove all distractions.

4. You can adjust quickly if needed
If you need to switch gears to work on another task, you can do so easily because you are??? #organized Yep, not a hard one here. Get yourself together. Carve out your time and you will be able to complete one task and move on to the next. No looking for the next thing. It’s already penciled in to be next. It’s already neatly laid put or filed.

5. Clarity
Being organized breeds clarity. It’s true. Once you have your schedule set and space clear, you will find it easy to get clear on what your good ideas are and what you should do next. I don’t know what you need, but I know you can get clear quicker in a clean environment.

So, I hope you have been inspired to get it together. There is still so much to discuss on this topic, but get organized so you can experience these five. You don’t have to work so hard. Get the things done in yo uh know you need to, so life can be smooth.

Whether it’s with your kids, on your job, or in your own business, organization is crucial to your success.

It takes time. It’s not easy to change your ways.

Do It Anyway!

Men, it’s okay to take a break and heal

Men, it’s okay to take a break and heal

As I’ve been delving into writing on relationships and cohosting a weekly #twitterchat called #destinydating, I have become more aware of how men and women are screwed up. Let me explain. Destiny dating is all about dating with marriage in mind and utilizing Biblical principals in the process. A big block to finding a good mate in the same place as you is the messages men and women carry with them from relationship to relationship. The negative self talk, the clichés, the pain of a failed relationship, or the dissolution without solution. And, so on. The point is we spend a great deal of time helping women heal because supposedly, we are more emotional and fragile. Well, I want it known that men need to take a break and heal as well when they experience breakups. Men need not partake of the usual two days and nights out with the boys, but a real period of not dating in order to reflect and process the good and the bad of that past relationship. As I look at my past relationships, I see hurt men who went on to hurt other women. Not to say every man was damaged, but a few needed detoxing and did not do so. They moved on to me, her, and her, etc. doing what “men do”. If we could have only reached those guys and said, “Heal up dude”, life would be better.

Now, I can’t see the future, but I bet a healed person could end a relationship as needed without inflicting unnecessary pain because they see that it is just not a good fit. However, if one has not healed or learned to deal with things not working out, they will resort to the same ways to medicate or hide the pain, i.e., jump into another relationship. Our boys and men need to be taught to explore their feelings and to heal in peace before adding another unsuspecting soul to the pot. That’s called baggage. Unless the bags get delivered, they just weigh you down.

What no one will tell you is that if you would do the work now to get to know the girl or woman you’re dating, you could avoid some of this pain. No one says that. Instead, they say. “Yeah man, I’d date her if I were you!” They never say, “She’s immature, selfish, out to use you, not looking to settle down, not wife material, etc.” No! They look at what you probably looked at- “the physical”. There is more to a person than their outside appearance. Get to know them. Get to know if you really are a good fit. And yes, you can do everything right and things can still fall apart. You’ve got to live and you’ve got to chase your dreams. Be prepared to forgive and release if it goes south. But, do the work!

So, it’s a short post, but one that I mean from the bottom of my heart. Isn’t it time you changed the pattern? Why not you? Yeah, you can do it. Tell your boys no and do you instead. No new girl. No night out. Just you, your thoughts, and the truth. What do you really want? Who are you? Be honest and live.

Scary isn’t it?

Do It Anyway!

Why Moving On is All You Can Do

Why Moving On is All You Can Do

It’s the new year and new love springs forth, some old loves have fizzled, and the “rock steady’s” are still in love. Wherever you are on the love continuum, remember, it’s a process. Everything is a season, and sometimes seasons end. Sometimes when we’re hurt or sad about and end, we want to wallow in it. Sometimes, we miss the memo that the mourning period is over and it’s (been) time to move on. If you’re there, I encourage you to take time to grieve, breathe, and heal. But then, MOVE ON. All that is meant for you will STAY. You won’t have to beg, borrow, or plead with him or her. It’ll be peaceful. You’ll know it.

Real love won’t leave. Mature people get that. People seeking love and who know how to love they also know how to nurture it, respect it. You won’t have unrequited love or crazy love when LOVE really comes. So guess what, moving on is what you need to do.

If you had a facsimile of love, know that you’re due the REAL deal. See it, believe it, wait on it, and LIVE your life NOW. Sometimes, you just gotta move on and LIVE. Sure, that person was amazing and you messed up. LIVE! What would you gain going back to dysfunctional, depressing, “missing something”, “not quite right”, etc,? I’m waiting… (Taps fingers on desk) Right! Nada! Go on and LIVE! Put on your big boy or big girl undies and move on. Go be you! Take the lessons you learned as guideposts and do better next time around. DO NOT miss life looking back. LIVE! You have love to give. You just gotta find who wants it. And trust me, you have a match out there.

Life sucks sometimes. Love hurts sometimes. Letting go is hard.

Do It Anyway!

4 reasons your resolutions don’t work and what to do instead

4 reasons your resolutions don’t work and what to do instead

So, I’m not saying resolutions aren’t good, I’m simply saying they do not last. How many times have you made resolutions only to chuck them to the side a few weeks or, if you’re lucky, a few months later? Well, I’ll answer for you- every year. At least, I have. So, if this has been your story isn’t it time you change it?

Here are 4 reasons to chuck your resolutions:

1. They do not last
Again, I say how many y times have you started and stopped? Isn’t it time to actually finish? Make a change that you keep to yourself and you remove to accountability from friends, trainers, and family and put it on YOU. This is why I am mum on what I’m doing. You will see it in my “glow”. Find yours! It’s worth it!

2. They are too big to sustain
I’m 255 but in 2 weeks I’m going to be 200.” Now, I was stretching and not poking fun. You see, your goals must be realistic or they will be too big to sustain. Plenty people have plans online you can download to help you plot your goals realistically. Do some research and pick what you like.

3. You lose interest
Come on. No more fad diets, budgets, get rich scans, etc. I won’t call the names, but you need real change. You need mind over matter. You need to be fed up, and then it will work. You need goals you won’t forget about. Ask yourself the hard question: What do I really want? And then move.

4. You don’t mean them
What do I mean “You don’t mean it!” Well, think about all the messages you get from TV and family and friends about weight, exercise, budgets, life balance, dating, etc. As you can see part of your resolutions come from outside of you. Wouldn’t it be best to instead make permanent change? Change that you mean? If you (and I)meant them, why did we stop? Read on.

At the end of 2014. I tweeted that I would not make any New Year’s Resolutions and that I would simply make permanent change. I even said I would not share my desires. I would only do them. Now, I haven’t hit on anything you don’t already know. I am simply saying why don’t we collectively let it go and choose us. It being the wrong reasons to do what we want. Let’s choose our happiness and things that positively affect us. We don’t have to share. We just need to do it ourselves. Sure. Having a friend that you are accountable to is an excellent way to help you stay on track. And use them if you need, but do not make lofty resolutions. Make positive, doable CHANGE for YOU and your BABIES. This is what it’s about- family. You being around to be with your family. So in health, in love, in finances, at work, make change. Permanent change!

Life is hard. Busy, and sometimes stressful. But you know what, you’re going to make it.

Do It Anyway!