Live your best life now.

Live your best life now.

How much time do you have left? Exactly. You don’t know. All you and I can do is plan. Have you been planning to one day live your best life? Have you been slaving away, foregoing fun just to live later? If so, stop it right now!

It is time to do inventory on how you spend your time which equates to how you spend your life. Make no mistake about it. You only live once. You have got to figure out how to work and connect in such a way that you are taking full advantage of your time. Since it is a resource that is unreplenishable, you have to use it wisely. Makes sense right?

Now, how does one truly live? It’s different for each of us. But, what I do know is you and I can live better than we do today, be better than we are today and love better. It’s a choice. So, choose to get up, get out, and LIVE! Live now. Later is not promised.

Not sure where to start?

#doitanyway

Self-Esteem. It’s not just a cool word.

Self-Esteem. It’s not just a cool word.

I had the pleasure of speaking to some young Tweens a few weeks ago. My topic was having great self-esteem and a winning attitude. It was amazing. It was amazing because I got to pour into them, but they also poured into me. I remember being their age and dreaming big. It was good to see their enthusiasm and then to hear them say from their mouths that they believed in themselves. I talked to them about “Do It Anyway!” – my motto for living. Whether they will remember that day or not remains to be seen. I hope they walked away loving themselves a little more and were encouraged to win no matter what life brings. We role-played and did Q&A’s. They were shy but we made it.

I won’t forget that day. I enjoyed sharing my wealth from the hard knocks of life. May you be inspired as well to love you fiercely, never take no as the final answer, and to chase every dream you know God has given you.

Some folks may never see the beauty you are. That’s okay. Love you anyway. You may not win every challenge. Try anyway! Doing your best every time may be hard. Do It Anyway!
Some one needs your light, your energy, your talent. Share it anyway!

Finding You and Your Vision

Finding You and Your Vision

Sometimes life ends up being very different from what we thought we wanted or it just looks different than it started. When that happens, what do you do? I tell you what you do- You readjust and keep living. If what you once wanted to do no longer satisfies? That’s okay. Begin to see that if you’re bored, stagnant, not challenged or you are ready to switch gears, it’s time to make a decision. 

Please do not make any rash decisions here. Just some reflection and a little inventory taking is encouraged. Afterall, you’ve got to take care of you. You’ve got to make time to do what makes you happy. Finding your passion may not be easy at first, but maybe you need to try new things. Whatever you do, do not quit, do not give up, and do not resign to live a mediocre life. There is life left in you. There is purpose in you. Look for it. Greater lies on the other side of difficult. Believe that! Push forward. Even without all the answers- push forward! 

 It may not be easy. You may have to make some hard decisions. You know what?

 Do It Anyway!

Chasing Destiny

Chasing Destiny

Can you taste it, smell it, see it? The “it” of which I speak is Your Destiny. If you cannot, you will not possess it. What wakes you up, keeps you up, and is always on your mind to do and make known to the world? That’s a clue. It’s called your purpose. Destiny is where performing your purpose will take you. We all have one. Some of us are too scared to walk in our purpose, some are still trying to figure it out, and others just Do It Anyway! Which one are you? 

Don’t feel bad if you’re afraid. Afraid is good energy misdirected. Instead of focusing on the “how”, focus on your “why” and “The Who” which is God because God will guide you. I know it’s scary, but trust me, you want to go on this journey. So, say yes today to a journey you can’t see, to the details being hidden, and to the glimpse of glory He’s given you. 

Go on, start the best chapter of your life. You chasing your destiny will impact many for good. You not chasing your destiny leaves all those folks untouched. Don’t you want to be a light, a blessing, a difference maker? 

Life is so hard at times and full of difficult decisions. Choose the ones that give you peace even if the details are blurry. Go on, live, chase, do!

Do It Anyway!

Learning to trust God in the wait.

Learning to trust God in the wait.

Seasons of waiting are common to us all. But, how do you make it through? How do you trust God in the wait? Life is up. Life is down. Life is smooth. You know He has given you signs to move toward purpose, things are good and moving in the right direction, and then it all seemingly stops. What!? Or, does it? I’m here to tell you that God is still there. When He seems quiet, trust Him. A few things are happening in the quiet. Read on:

1) He is testing your faith. 

This may seem cruel to you. But, the test is not for Him. It is for you. You need to know that your faith is at least the size of a mustard seed and that You believe God is Who He says He is. Only you can go through this “test”. No one can tell you how long it will last, but I urge you to simply tell Him every day- I surrender.

2) He is preparing the way.

Yes, God is all powerful, but He is also a God of order. I know this because the Bible says so. See Isaiah 44:24. But, He does not just move people and circumstances around in the blink of an eye to appease us. No. He takes time. People need to be affected. I can’t explain it, but in my own life as I look back on some  things, I see how God had a hand in the wait. I also see how the wait was for my good. Oh, to have received what I wanted then! What a dire mistake it would have been. So, trust that He is preparing the way and you for what’s next. 

3) He is preparing you.

Yes, you. I know you think you’re ready, but there may be something else you’ll need for the next level and in this waiting period or season of life that is what you should be doing? Preparing. Keep trusting God. Talk to Him. You will know by and by as my grandpa used to say. Just keep growing. And keep praying. 

I don’t know the secrets of the universe or what is going on with you. But, I encourage you in your wait to draw closer to God. He will draw close to you. You’ll soon forget about wanting it to be over and you’ll just go through it in peace. Trusting The Zone who knows it all. Selah.

In the end, it’s okay. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end. Hold on. Keep pushing toward purpose. It will all become clear by and by.

Kaydy

Keep Moving

Keep Moving

Sometimes life hits you from the side and you fall. You didn’t see that job ending, the relationship disintegrating , or your friends walking away. It hurts when we lose the ones we love. Maybe they didn’t leave. Maybe it’s just strained. To all these I say “keep moving”.

One thing life has taught me is that if I hit the ugly stuff head on, it won’t last as long as dragging it out by procrastinating or wishing it away. You’ve got to push through these ugly stages as full of grace and tact as you can muster, with tears in your eyes, and exhausted. Find the strength to push through. Keep moving. Treat them well, speak your peace, and move on.

You are only responsible for you and can only change you. Interesting isn’t it? We as humans try to change others. Won’t work. Been there. Done that. Can’t love them enough, spoil them enough, put them first enough, etc. Crap will happen. People will leave. You know what? Take heart because you only want what stays. You want to love the ones who will stay and work it through, who support you, and will move through life with you. That’s how you know who belongs in your tribe.

So, what is it you need to move on from today? Only you know what it is. I’ve had to let friendships go and relationships go and in life I’ve moved careers. Hey, it wasn’t easy, but it was best. I’m not saying make any rash decisions, but you must evaluate where you are and what you’re doing. If it’s not the right fit and you’ve done all you can- MOVE.

Life’s not easy. Decisions are hard. Being a grown up is tough.

Do It Anyway!

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m ecstatic to be single.

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m ecstatic to be single.

This may or may not relate to you, but I am thankful to not be in the wrong relationship. See, I was in one for three years and even though we celebrated Valentine’s Day, something was always “off”. Just wasn’t right. It wasn’t my forever live, but U tried to make it work. I am now, however, owning my new found freedom and choosing me over a relationship just for the sake of relationship. Now, it didn’t always feel that way, but the nice gifts and someone to do stuff with were motivation to keep trying to resuscitate a dead horse. Lol! Look, being single is not a punishment. It is life giving. Being married is a blessing for most and for some, it is sheer hell right now. What I’m saying is don’t skip one season to get to the next. All seasons have their ups and downs. Love on you right where you are. Enjoy your life right now . Travel , study new things, meet new people, make new friends , LIVE!!!

Having a boo, A bae, a man/woman is awesome when there is no drama or sorrow. Wait on your good thing. In the meantime, don’t let a commercial holiday make you feel small. Go on and live. Get the girls/guys together and go rollerblading, to a movie, shopping, have a cookout (if it’s cold where you are a dinner party), chat, play board games, etc. Just don’t pine away today eating chocolate and missing out on your life! Thinking right isn’t good enough. I know my mate better be somewhere living and enjoying his life. Why would I want a sourpuss for a mate? Get it?

You are amazing, and one day someone will see that. Until then, love on you and have the time of your life. Do t forget you have a purpose for being here and it’s not just to marry and have babies.

Being single is hard sometimes.

Do It Anyway!

The Eligibility List

The Eligibility List

By: Bryce Runge

 

The definition of Eligible is:

 

Fit or proper to be chosen; worthy of choice; desirable:    or

Meeting the stipulated requirements, as to participate, compete, or work; to be qualified!!!

 

These words, Not Eligible, Not approved, Not Qualified all has been thrown in my face for many years on many different occasions and I am sure all of you have experienced hearing these words as well. Some examples would be like trying to get a loan and being turned down “Not approved” or applying for a job and “not being qualified” and the two words that really stuck with me over the past decade were “NOT ELIGIBLE”

When I set out on my football journey 12 years ago, I didn’t quite realize what I was walking into. I knew that I had a dream and a goal to return to the football field and by the way when I say return to the football field, I mean there was a 6 year gap from when I played in high school to when I enrolled in junior college.

After playing my first year of at Fullerton Junior College I was offered a full scholarship to South Carolina and to play for College Football Hall of Fame coach, Lou Holtz, but I wasn’t “ELIGIBLE” mainly in part due to my poor decision making while in high school, barely graduating and not taking the SAT’s etc.

I put that disappointment behind me and went on to play another year at Fullerton and ended up getting a full athletic scholarship to the University of Hawaii. I then made a bad decision to leave early and declare for the 2005 NFL draft. Went through pro day, did well, and shortly after, was flown into Buffalo with the hopes of signing an NFL contract…turns out I wasn’t “ELIGIBLE”.

I’m going to skip over the details for now as to why.

A year later, All American Football league came on the scene and I was invited to work out for “Team Texas”…turns out I wouldn’t have been “ELIGIBLE” and I’ll spare the details on that as well, ha ha!!!

With all the “Not Eligible”, “Not Approved” and “Not Qualified” comments that I was faced with clearly had left me with MANY painful disappointments. I couldn’t and I can’t explain WHY I wasn’t in the NFL and quite honestly everyone around me felt the same way…except for God, because certainly my plans weren’t aligned with His and I didn’t know any better because I didn’t have a relationship with Christ during those years of my life.

In Jerimiah 29:11 we can learn and grasp firmly to His words

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you Hope and a Future”

As your relationship with Christ strengthens and builds you begin to see things clearer and have a better understanding. However, if you don’t have that relationship, you can’t see anything beyond your OWN desires and then end up banging our heads against the wall trying to figure out why you aren’t eligible, qualified or approved.

In 2 Corinthians 3:4-5: We are to be confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God.

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The other morning when I was in prayer, begging God to make things right for my son and I and explaining to Him how much it hurts when I’m on the phone with my son and when he starts to cry and say “Daddy, I miss you …Daddy, I want to be with you”

God quickly intervened and said    “Child, I have missed you too”  and when he said that , I literally crumbled and tears poured down my face and it hit me like a ton of bricks, on my knees in tears I asked “God, forgive me of my sins and forgive me for not caring about You for 35 years”

When my son says “I miss you daddy”, I have a better understanding of what God must have felt all those years when I could care less about Him and MORE of others and their approval.

I ran around doing things without a care in the world…and I definitely could care less about God. So every time I put that illegal substance in my body, the multiple times I got behind the wheel heavily under the influence, every girl I became intimate with, the life that I agreed to murder with abortion, everything I stole and every jaw I broke because some guy looked at me wrong… proved that I had NO INTEREST in God. The one who gave me life, the one who created me and this is how I thanked Him; this is how I HONORED Him?

So I question why? How on earth did I escape from all the bad I was doing and how did I not end up dead or in prison, because those that I aligned with, those that I was trying to get on the eligibility list with… guess what, they either ended up dead or prison!

And through it ALL, He was there watching as I disappointed Him, So why God? Why did you spare me?

And again he constantly reminds me

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you Hope and a Future”

I can only imagine what God was thinking when I was out running WILD, but if I were to come up with something it might go like this:

“Oh child, I am sorry that you feel the need to do what you are doing, it hurts me to see the things of which you do, the need to seek eligibility elsewhere, the need to seek others approval, but know that I love you and I forgive you. Besides, there will come a day, when you hit your knees crying for me, to save you, to heal you, to forgive you and when you do AND you will…I will answer your prayers….because, I LOVE YOU”

I wanted so badly to be “Eligible” and I sought after approval like there was NO TOMORROW. That outside approval is literally an addiction; we work to get approval and when we do, we seek more and more because it feels so good and in the meantime, we become ungrateful, disobedient and self-centered. In 2 Timothy 3:2-5 we can really get a clear picture of this type of behavior “people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people”.

True freedom never comes until we fully realize that we don’t need to struggle to get from others what GOD so freely gives us.

Knowing that God loves us, knowing that WE ARE ELIGBLE, WE ARE QUALIFED and WE ARE APPROVED tells us all we need to know and as long as we have Gods approval, we don’t NEED any one else’s approval and in case we forget and lose sight of that, remember that Jesus came and said in John 14:27

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

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God wants our security to be in Him, not in anything else. He is NOT dubious, for he is certain and sure.

In 2 Timothy 2:19,

God’s truth stands firm like a foundation stone with this inscription: “The LORD knows those who are his,” and “All who belong to the LORD must turn away from evil.

God knows that we are not perfect and will never expect us to be either, but what he does expect of us can be found in

Isaiah 55:6-13(MSG)

Seek God while he’s here to be found,     pray to him while he’s close at hand. Let the wicked abandon their way of life     and the evil their way of thinking. Let them come back to God, who is merciful,     come back to our God, who is lavish with forgiveness.

“I don’t think the way you think.     The way you work isn’t the way I work.”          “For as the sky soars high above earth,     so the way I work surpasses the way you work,     and the way I think is beyond the way you think. Just as rain and snow descend from the skies     and don’t go back until they’ve watered the earth, Doing their work of making things grow and blossom,     producing seed for farmers and food for the hungry, So will the words that come out of my mouth     not come back empty-handed. They’ll do the work I sent them to do,     they’ll complete the assignment I gave them.

 “So you’ll go out in joy,     you’ll be led into a whole and complete life. The mountains and hills will lead the parade,     bursting with song. All the trees of the forest will join the procession,     exuberant with applause. No more thistles, but giant sequoias,     no more thorn bushes, but stately pines— Monuments to me, to God,     living and lasting evidence of God.”

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I will tell you this, that in Galatians 6:9 we are taught to “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

We must continue to seek God, continue to place Him first in our lives. Know that we are here because God has a purpose for our lives; He has GREAT things in store for us!!! We must understand that we have HIS approval and we don’t need to struggle with getting on anyone else’s “Eligibility List”.

Have an AMAZING DAY!!!

Bryce Runge
About five years ago, one of my goals was to speak to individuals and to share my story and to eventually begin writing my book, but five years ago I wasn’t in any condition to share that story. Looking back on it now, I realize the timing of it had to be right and it had to be God’s timing. I had to endure a lot, overcome many obstacles in order for it to work out and more importantly I’ve had to allow God to be the author, not me. Therefore, my purpose is to use my experiences, to use my story to truly glorify Christ and to do so verbally with those I come into contact with, through my speaking engagements and in my writing.

Find Bryce at BryceRunge.com

So you messed up. Keep going!

So you messed up. Keep going!

I hear a lot of people putting themselves down lately. I’m on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram (as well as here with this lovely blog ), and people, as social media is- share. They share their journey. I listen. I try to encourage. All our journeys have expiration dates. Don’t let your life expire un-lived wallowing in the past. See, I have had my ups and downs, too. But, I just want it known that life being hard does not mean it’s reason for you to stay stuck in a repeated self defeating state. You are more than a mistake. Get up! Get going! And live! God says to His creation we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Believe that and live!

No one knows your whole journey and it’s none of our business. But, you are still here and that means you survived. So, you messed up! Keep going. We all made mistakes. That’s life. You must learn from them, never commit them again, and move forward. What goals do you have? Work on them. What dreams do you dream? Bring them to life? Who is in your corner? Love them. What are you blessed with right now? Appreciate it.

No wallowing in self pity. Get up and get going. Life is to be lived. Motivated yet? Good!

Do It Anyway!

Prepare for delays

Prepare for delays

Life, for me, moves at a very fast pace as a single parent. However, two parent homes have the same outlook-busy. It’s hectic. Kids are in this, we have a meeting, or work, or church, etc. It’s just busy. But, we can fix this with one little word- NO. I know. How dare I! Well, it’s a must in order to live a balanced life. Even then, there will be delays, interruptions, and distractions. Let me tell you, raising little humans is not easy. It’s a beautiful privilege but it ain’t easy.

Example: Every morning we have a routine. The routine is we leave at 7 am. Everyone should be dressed, have eaten, and the kitchen clean by that time. Well, that didn’t happen a few mirnings ago. Guess who was upset about it? Right. ME. Not them. ME! And as these stories go, everything was out of order on the way to work and dropping them off. I had a choice to make- blow up or stay calm. I prayed, breathed, and said “Lord, you take this one”. Now, I can’t say I’m always this awesome, but it felt good to behave like an adult and do what I know I should first. lol! Ladies and gents, you know what I mean if you’ve ever read your child the riot act. I’m really easy to go into a diatribe instead if smoothly handle the delay, disruption, or distraction. But, we have to. This is life and the people in it with us are our heart and soul. So, how do we handle these situations? Everytime, with “Lord, I need you”. These inconveniences are going to come. Prepare for them.

That day I had a great day because I was determined not to have anything else. God blessed me through it. And I learned something. If I will always go to Him first what a better situation it will become.

So, what about you? What’s your usual delay that you can respond to (when it arises again) with calm, peace, and assurance? Hmmm.

Now, to do this next time! That is the goal for me. You know there will be a next time.

Hey, crap happens. Expect it. Move forward. Parenting is not easy.

Do It Anyway!

Kaydy