Are you a Joseph? 

Are you a Joseph? 

Sometimes, well let me stop lying, a huge part of my life, I’ve felt like there was MORE to me and for me. Feelings can be misleading. True. But, that isn’t this post. This post is my truth, and I believe you’ll see some of you in it as well. I’ve always sensed that I was greater and should be doing greater. Yet, I have not always walked in that calling or lived like it. But, no mas! I took a plunge to live for me, to have my best life, and to go where I felt destiny calling. Now, that transpired over a few years and is still in process. But, I want all of the “Josephs” out there to know that you can run, but you can’t hide from the purpose God has for you.

Better ain’t never hurt nobody! Truth is it takes courage to be more than you are right now. That is why I ask, ‘Are you a Joseph?” Hmmm. Deep, right!? Doesn’t have to be. Are you or are you not living in and on purpose? If not, why?

Joseph is a man in The Bible who had a dream. He shared his dream and was despised because of it. I can identify. When I wanted to learn and then teach Spanish, I got crazy looks and comments. I did it anyway! When I wanted my Masters, they said, “Don’t you already have a Spanish degree?” Yep! I did that anyway, too! When I said I wanted to blog, they said, “”What’s that?” Lol! Listen, you’ve got to stay on course and moving toward your destiny if you want to have your promise.

Joseph knew God told him in a dream he would be exalted and his brothers would one day bow to him. He messed up by sharing that. I’ve done that, too. Have you? But, his brothers did bow. They didn’t know it was their brother they had gotten rid of years before. Teaching point 1: Do not ever think that God gives up on His promises to you. If He said it, it’s coming! Teaching point 2: You need to be careful how you treat folks. Now, Joseph lost his youth due to being thrown in a pit by his brothers and being a slave in a foreign land, but he grew in those trials. Every one of his downs he came through. He trusted God. So, what trial are you in right now? If you know you’ve been given a vision of glory and your now doesn’t match it, keep pressing. Don’t give up. It’s coming!

“Are you a Joseph” is simply calling you to say yes to your destiny no matter how hard it is right now. Joseph rose to 2nd in command in all of Egypt. Now, that’s faith, favor, and fearlessness. Go on! Push through this season and don’t let go until you’ve arrived. Trust God for direction. He’ll give more than you imagined if you trust Him.

Do It Anyway!

Grace for the Journey

Grace for the Journey

I want to admit that I don’t always have it all together. If thats what you think, I’m not doing this blogging thing right. I want you to know  that having a great life and great expectations about life isn’t based on you being perfect ALL the time. So, let go of the guilt. There is grace for where you are right now. Simple as that. 

How can I can keep smiling about the good  and the bad, about how I mess up and how I win?  Because I know God is with me, loves me, and has a plan for me. Thanks to His grace and mercy, I keep making it through.  You mess up? Get up. There is grace to pick you up and help you keep going. Ask for it and Live! 

Just pondering how we waste time on regret. Use your grace and move forward. Have a rockin Saturday! Im off to the movies with my boys. Remember, it wont always be easy. 

Do It Anyway! 

Being thankful

Being thankful

Today is Good Friday. If you’re of the Christian faith, that means a lot to you. If not, it’s still a good day to be alive. But, as I run my errands, I can’t help but be thankful. I’m thankful for my faith, for my life, for the peace I have, for the joy, for my boys, for possibilities. I pray you are in that same space. No matter what is going on, find your zone and get thankful. There is something about choosing joy and happiness that changes us, our moods, and eventually our environment.

What are you thankful for? Even if life sucks right now, find something. You’ll be amazed at what it will do for you.

Lastly, I’m so thankful for my God Who died for me and rose for me and you. If you need help, He’s there. Feel free to leave a prayer request below and I will pray with you.

Go on! Find your happy and walk in it! “But you don’t know what I’m going through Kaydy!” Yes, I do. Hold on and…

Do It Anyway!

Having the talk with your kids.

Having the talk with your kids.

I don’t know about you, but I freaked out for weeks trying to get the nerve up to talk to my boys about sex. Their school wanted to show them a video on puberty, but I wasn’t ready yet. Sound familiar? Lol. All about me! Up to this point, they knew God put the babies in mommy’s belly. What was I to do!

Take a Listen to see what I said as I was interviewed by Shon Hyneman and his wife Londina for their podcast “The Doctor of Love Show”. Shon and Londina are doing great work to help singles and married folk navigate relationships in a healthy way. Check them out! @ShonHyneman @1NurseLove on Twitter and on their blog Neveragainministries.com

 Talk back to me. What do you think? 

Best wishes on the journey! Parenting is not easy. 

Do It Anyway!

Be a blessing. Use your time wisely. 

Be a blessing. Use your time wisely. 

It does not hurt you or me at all to give a smile, a kind word, a listening ear. What it costs is time. I would like to state that we waste so much time doing things that we think are important and do not have enough time for the things and people who really are. Think about it. TV, favorite shows, Social Media, shopping, etc. These are all good things, yet could we shave some time in these areas to be a blessing? I say yes!

I stop at times and say “Lord, help me to spend my time wisely”. I want to make sure I’m not rushing to something that doesn’t matter and I make time to be a blessing. 

Recently, I heard if a friend who has fallen ill. I wanted them to know I loved them and was praying for them. That took time. Time I needed to spend. They appreciated it. It blessed me to be a blessing. It will bless you, too!  What are you not making time for in your life? What can you remove so you can see where to be a blessing?

This is a short post but one where I want to challenge us all to do more with our less.

No time? Look closely. It’s in there.

Do It Anyway! 

Learning to trust God in the wait.

Learning to trust God in the wait.

Seasons of waiting are common to us all. But, how do you make it through? How do you trust God in the wait? Life is up. Life is down. Life is smooth. You know He has given you signs to move toward purpose, things are good and moving in the right direction, and then it all seemingly stops. What!? Or, does it? I’m here to tell you that God is still there. When He seems quiet, trust Him. A few things are happening in the quiet. Read on:

1) He is testing your faith. 

This may seem cruel to you. But, the test is not for Him. It is for you. You need to know that your faith is at least the size of a mustard seed and that You believe God is Who He says He is. Only you can go through this “test”. No one can tell you how long it will last, but I urge you to simply tell Him every day- I surrender.

2) He is preparing the way.

Yes, God is all powerful, but He is also a God of order. I know this because the Bible says so. See Isaiah 44:24. But, He does not just move people and circumstances around in the blink of an eye to appease us. No. He takes time. People need to be affected. I can’t explain it, but in my own life as I look back on some  things, I see how God had a hand in the wait. I also see how the wait was for my good. Oh, to have received what I wanted then! What a dire mistake it would have been. So, trust that He is preparing the way and you for what’s next. 

3) He is preparing you.

Yes, you. I know you think you’re ready, but there may be something else you’ll need for the next level and in this waiting period or season of life that is what you should be doing? Preparing. Keep trusting God. Talk to Him. You will know by and by as my grandpa used to say. Just keep growing. And keep praying. 

I don’t know the secrets of the universe or what is going on with you. But, I encourage you in your wait to draw closer to God. He will draw close to you. You’ll soon forget about wanting it to be over and you’ll just go through it in peace. Trusting The Zone who knows it all. Selah.

In the end, it’s okay. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end. Hold on. Keep pushing toward purpose. It will all become clear by and by.

Kaydy

Keep Moving

Keep Moving

Sometimes life hits you from the side and you fall. You didn’t see that job ending, the relationship disintegrating , or your friends walking away. It hurts when we lose the ones we love. Maybe they didn’t leave. Maybe it’s just strained. To all these I say “keep moving”.

One thing life has taught me is that if I hit the ugly stuff head on, it won’t last as long as dragging it out by procrastinating or wishing it away. You’ve got to push through these ugly stages as full of grace and tact as you can muster, with tears in your eyes, and exhausted. Find the strength to push through. Keep moving. Treat them well, speak your peace, and move on.

You are only responsible for you and can only change you. Interesting isn’t it? We as humans try to change others. Won’t work. Been there. Done that. Can’t love them enough, spoil them enough, put them first enough, etc. Crap will happen. People will leave. You know what? Take heart because you only want what stays. You want to love the ones who will stay and work it through, who support you, and will move through life with you. That’s how you know who belongs in your tribe.

So, what is it you need to move on from today? Only you know what it is. I’ve had to let friendships go and relationships go and in life I’ve moved careers. Hey, it wasn’t easy, but it was best. I’m not saying make any rash decisions, but you must evaluate where you are and what you’re doing. If it’s not the right fit and you’ve done all you can- MOVE.

Life’s not easy. Decisions are hard. Being a grown up is tough.

Do It Anyway!

The Eligibility List

The Eligibility List

By: Bryce Runge

 

The definition of Eligible is:

 

Fit or proper to be chosen; worthy of choice; desirable:    or

Meeting the stipulated requirements, as to participate, compete, or work; to be qualified!!!

 

These words, Not Eligible, Not approved, Not Qualified all has been thrown in my face for many years on many different occasions and I am sure all of you have experienced hearing these words as well. Some examples would be like trying to get a loan and being turned down “Not approved” or applying for a job and “not being qualified” and the two words that really stuck with me over the past decade were “NOT ELIGIBLE”

When I set out on my football journey 12 years ago, I didn’t quite realize what I was walking into. I knew that I had a dream and a goal to return to the football field and by the way when I say return to the football field, I mean there was a 6 year gap from when I played in high school to when I enrolled in junior college.

After playing my first year of at Fullerton Junior College I was offered a full scholarship to South Carolina and to play for College Football Hall of Fame coach, Lou Holtz, but I wasn’t “ELIGIBLE” mainly in part due to my poor decision making while in high school, barely graduating and not taking the SAT’s etc.

I put that disappointment behind me and went on to play another year at Fullerton and ended up getting a full athletic scholarship to the University of Hawaii. I then made a bad decision to leave early and declare for the 2005 NFL draft. Went through pro day, did well, and shortly after, was flown into Buffalo with the hopes of signing an NFL contract…turns out I wasn’t “ELIGIBLE”.

I’m going to skip over the details for now as to why.

A year later, All American Football league came on the scene and I was invited to work out for “Team Texas”…turns out I wouldn’t have been “ELIGIBLE” and I’ll spare the details on that as well, ha ha!!!

With all the “Not Eligible”, “Not Approved” and “Not Qualified” comments that I was faced with clearly had left me with MANY painful disappointments. I couldn’t and I can’t explain WHY I wasn’t in the NFL and quite honestly everyone around me felt the same way…except for God, because certainly my plans weren’t aligned with His and I didn’t know any better because I didn’t have a relationship with Christ during those years of my life.

In Jerimiah 29:11 we can learn and grasp firmly to His words

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you Hope and a Future”

As your relationship with Christ strengthens and builds you begin to see things clearer and have a better understanding. However, if you don’t have that relationship, you can’t see anything beyond your OWN desires and then end up banging our heads against the wall trying to figure out why you aren’t eligible, qualified or approved.

In 2 Corinthians 3:4-5: We are to be confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God.

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The other morning when I was in prayer, begging God to make things right for my son and I and explaining to Him how much it hurts when I’m on the phone with my son and when he starts to cry and say “Daddy, I miss you …Daddy, I want to be with you”

God quickly intervened and said    “Child, I have missed you too”  and when he said that , I literally crumbled and tears poured down my face and it hit me like a ton of bricks, on my knees in tears I asked “God, forgive me of my sins and forgive me for not caring about You for 35 years”

When my son says “I miss you daddy”, I have a better understanding of what God must have felt all those years when I could care less about Him and MORE of others and their approval.

I ran around doing things without a care in the world…and I definitely could care less about God. So every time I put that illegal substance in my body, the multiple times I got behind the wheel heavily under the influence, every girl I became intimate with, the life that I agreed to murder with abortion, everything I stole and every jaw I broke because some guy looked at me wrong… proved that I had NO INTEREST in God. The one who gave me life, the one who created me and this is how I thanked Him; this is how I HONORED Him?

So I question why? How on earth did I escape from all the bad I was doing and how did I not end up dead or in prison, because those that I aligned with, those that I was trying to get on the eligibility list with… guess what, they either ended up dead or prison!

And through it ALL, He was there watching as I disappointed Him, So why God? Why did you spare me?

And again he constantly reminds me

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you Hope and a Future”

I can only imagine what God was thinking when I was out running WILD, but if I were to come up with something it might go like this:

“Oh child, I am sorry that you feel the need to do what you are doing, it hurts me to see the things of which you do, the need to seek eligibility elsewhere, the need to seek others approval, but know that I love you and I forgive you. Besides, there will come a day, when you hit your knees crying for me, to save you, to heal you, to forgive you and when you do AND you will…I will answer your prayers….because, I LOVE YOU”

I wanted so badly to be “Eligible” and I sought after approval like there was NO TOMORROW. That outside approval is literally an addiction; we work to get approval and when we do, we seek more and more because it feels so good and in the meantime, we become ungrateful, disobedient and self-centered. In 2 Timothy 3:2-5 we can really get a clear picture of this type of behavior “people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people”.

True freedom never comes until we fully realize that we don’t need to struggle to get from others what GOD so freely gives us.

Knowing that God loves us, knowing that WE ARE ELIGBLE, WE ARE QUALIFED and WE ARE APPROVED tells us all we need to know and as long as we have Gods approval, we don’t NEED any one else’s approval and in case we forget and lose sight of that, remember that Jesus came and said in John 14:27

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

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God wants our security to be in Him, not in anything else. He is NOT dubious, for he is certain and sure.

In 2 Timothy 2:19,

God’s truth stands firm like a foundation stone with this inscription: “The LORD knows those who are his,” and “All who belong to the LORD must turn away from evil.

God knows that we are not perfect and will never expect us to be either, but what he does expect of us can be found in

Isaiah 55:6-13(MSG)

Seek God while he’s here to be found,     pray to him while he’s close at hand. Let the wicked abandon their way of life     and the evil their way of thinking. Let them come back to God, who is merciful,     come back to our God, who is lavish with forgiveness.

“I don’t think the way you think.     The way you work isn’t the way I work.”          “For as the sky soars high above earth,     so the way I work surpasses the way you work,     and the way I think is beyond the way you think. Just as rain and snow descend from the skies     and don’t go back until they’ve watered the earth, Doing their work of making things grow and blossom,     producing seed for farmers and food for the hungry, So will the words that come out of my mouth     not come back empty-handed. They’ll do the work I sent them to do,     they’ll complete the assignment I gave them.

 “So you’ll go out in joy,     you’ll be led into a whole and complete life. The mountains and hills will lead the parade,     bursting with song. All the trees of the forest will join the procession,     exuberant with applause. No more thistles, but giant sequoias,     no more thorn bushes, but stately pines— Monuments to me, to God,     living and lasting evidence of God.”

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I will tell you this, that in Galatians 6:9 we are taught to “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

We must continue to seek God, continue to place Him first in our lives. Know that we are here because God has a purpose for our lives; He has GREAT things in store for us!!! We must understand that we have HIS approval and we don’t need to struggle with getting on anyone else’s “Eligibility List”.

Have an AMAZING DAY!!!

Bryce Runge
About five years ago, one of my goals was to speak to individuals and to share my story and to eventually begin writing my book, but five years ago I wasn’t in any condition to share that story. Looking back on it now, I realize the timing of it had to be right and it had to be God’s timing. I had to endure a lot, overcome many obstacles in order for it to work out and more importantly I’ve had to allow God to be the author, not me. Therefore, my purpose is to use my experiences, to use my story to truly glorify Christ and to do so verbally with those I come into contact with, through my speaking engagements and in my writing.

Find Bryce at BryceRunge.com

What do a mom, two boys, and a dream have in common?

What do a mom, two boys, and a dream have in common?

What I have experienced the last 10 months of my life has been more than I could have imagined. “What’s that?”, you say. Well, I’ve decided to dream again, and that has led me to create a self-titled website that houses all of my dreams in one place. You see, to some it seems crazy to house single parent mentoring and events beside my Spanish teaching programs. But, not to me! It’s absolutely logical. In fact, I don’t care what “they” say. I’m gonna #DoItAnyway! My boys and I are moving forward in the direction of our dreams.

I say my boys and I because that is the makeup of my family- me and them. I need their cooperation and input to make certain aspects of my dream work. I also know that it is because of them that I dare to dream Big dreams. I want them involved in my dream chasing. I talk to them now about ideas because I want them to see how “not so easy” it is to build something that doesn’t exist. I also want them to see me “Do It Anyway!” I want my will to make it be something they’ll never forget. I want a better life for them. To have all those things, I’ve got to “do something” and I need them to actively participate in this process. Our working together builds a bond not easily broken and I show them I value their input.

So, whether you’re a single parent or not, take it from me and my boys- It’s never too late. Get up and go in the direction of your dreans. We are. Get your kids involed, friends, etc. You will be amazed at the help you’ll receive. But whatever you do, start now!

Life is tough. So are you. Get to dreaming!

XOXO
Kaywanda

5 hindrances to pursuing your purpose

5 hindrances to pursuing your purpose

Recently, it dawned on me that everyone doesn’t know why they’re here. And that got me to thinking about how to help. First off, I know we all have jobs and/or careers, but purpose is that deep desire you have on the inside that you must fulfill. It will not only bless you but others. You can’t sleep because it’s calling your name, and every waking moment you dream about it. Purpose is your “why” for living. Although I believe we can have various degrees of purpose throughout life, I do know that it takes courage to pursue it. So, I list five hindrances to pursuing your purpose. Why do some never chase it and grasp it? Why do some start out on the right course but never finish? Let’s see.

Here are 5 hindrances to changing your life for the better and walking in your purpose.

1. Fear of the unknown
Yeah, I said fear. There is no guarantee that gut feeling you have will work and that, my friend, is scary. But, you know deep down the opposite of fear is going to be regret. So, get clear on what you are to do and just chase it. I guarantee that if it’s your purpose, it will not fail.

2. Doubt
You are skeptical about whether this is where you should go and what you should do. That is very logical and wise, but at some point you have to jump into the unknown sea of doubt to discover your possibility. Don’t let your doubts deter you. Research, study, test it even, but do not stay stuck on doubt.

3. Excuses
How many have you come up with? I had at least four before I started blogging. They were time, money, family, and work. As you can see, I started. No more excuses! Kick them to the curb and go for it! Today!

4. No support system
No one in your corner? Or, they come and go? That’s okay. You support yourself until you can connect with like-minded people. There are many of us who have to go alone in the direction of our dreams and our purpose. I think we’ll all be able to say that at some point others came to help. Keep in mind that what you have to do is too important to leave undone just because others can’t see it. It’s your purpose. Get to it.

5. Don’t know where to begin
I’m laughing as I type this because I so get that it’s hard to know where to start. I started almost a year ago on a journey that isn’t complete, but I’m so glad I started. Do you want to say a year from now you should just start or do you want to be walking in your purpose a year from now? Don’t let excuses hold you back. There will always be excuses why not to do it now. You know what I say? Why not now?

We all have a purpose. Will you be one who at the end of life says, “I should have” or will you be able to say, “I did”? Life isn’t easy. Finding, chasing, and living out your purpose isn’t easy. But, once you find it and live it out, you are forever changed (and so are all around you) for the better. Throw off every weighty excuse and Do It Any Way!

XO