Believe in You

Believe in You

Even when the last person you needed to say yes said no, believe in yourself. When the dream is dying and you feel like being desperate for just one second, don’t. Believe in you and your dreams. Give it all you’ve got. This won’t guarantee victory every time, but it will guarantee peace. When you’ve done your best, nothing and no one can take away your sense of accomplishment. Get in there and fight!

Do It Anyway!

Are you a Joseph? 

Are you a Joseph? 

Sometimes, well let me stop lying, a huge part of my life, I’ve felt like there was MORE to me and for me. Feelings can be misleading. True. But, that isn’t this post. This post is my truth, and I believe you’ll see some of you in it as well. I’ve always sensed that I was greater and should be doing greater. Yet, I have not always walked in that calling or lived like it. But, no mas! I took a plunge to live for me, to have my best life, and to go where I felt destiny calling. Now, that transpired over a few years and is still in process. But, I want all of the “Josephs” out there to know that you can run, but you can’t hide from the purpose God has for you.

Better ain’t never hurt nobody! Truth is it takes courage to be more than you are right now. That is why I ask, ‘Are you a Joseph?” Hmmm. Deep, right!? Doesn’t have to be. Are you or are you not living in and on purpose? If not, why?

Joseph is a man in The Bible who had a dream. He shared his dream and was despised because of it. I can identify. When I wanted to learn and then teach Spanish, I got crazy looks and comments. I did it anyway! When I wanted my Masters, they said, “Don’t you already have a Spanish degree?” Yep! I did that anyway, too! When I said I wanted to blog, they said, “”What’s that?” Lol! Listen, you’ve got to stay on course and moving toward your destiny if you want to have your promise.

Joseph knew God told him in a dream he would be exalted and his brothers would one day bow to him. He messed up by sharing that. I’ve done that, too. Have you? But, his brothers did bow. They didn’t know it was their brother they had gotten rid of years before. Teaching point 1: Do not ever think that God gives up on His promises to you. If He said it, it’s coming! Teaching point 2: You need to be careful how you treat folks. Now, Joseph lost his youth due to being thrown in a pit by his brothers and being a slave in a foreign land, but he grew in those trials. Every one of his downs he came through. He trusted God. So, what trial are you in right now? If you know you’ve been given a vision of glory and your now doesn’t match it, keep pressing. Don’t give up. It’s coming!

“Are you a Joseph” is simply calling you to say yes to your destiny no matter how hard it is right now. Joseph rose to 2nd in command in all of Egypt. Now, that’s faith, favor, and fearlessness. Go on! Push through this season and don’t let go until you’ve arrived. Trust God for direction. He’ll give more than you imagined if you trust Him.

Do It Anyway!

How being a single mom has made me better.

How being a single mom has made me better.

Where do I start? My babies made me grow up even though I thought I was grown. I thought I was a hard worker. They improved that. I thought I was fearless. They showed me how to be even more fearless like alioness protecting her cubs. (Really. You should have seen me when they said someone picked on them. It was like Optimus Prime coming to the rescue. Lol!) I acted like an adult, so no worries. But, I thought I knew love. Oh, I only understood the beginning of it. 

In their own special way, my boys grew another part of my heart. Sure, I fuss at them, talk about them yeah, but they are mine. Raising them is not easy, but it has so many good parts. If I had to do this work/ministry of parenting with their dad, I wouldn’t have been my happy, fun-loving, “lover of life” self. We were not to be. Praise God! And there’s nothing wrong with admitting that. No hate. Its my truth. We could co-parent sure if that were an option. But he chose not to. C’est la vie. Es la vida. That’s life! That ain’t the point, but I say that for my sisters yet holding on to the past. 

But me! I’m great! I get to pour into my boys and they- they change me. Soften me. My hearts. So, if you’re out there whining andpining  about doing tius work/ministry alone, I want you to really get honest about what you lost. Really get honest. Look at the facts. Not the good times. All the times. Were they really that good? Were you treated with love and respect? Adored and honored? If not, keep living. Your greater hasn’t come yet. And to have it, you gotta let go. Raise your babies with all you have. You’ll see they make you better and you become open to love and live again all while becoming the you you were destined to be. 

I’m glad to be able to parent alone in peace. Thats not to say I don’t want help. I just know I have to do what I gotta do until someone worthy of all this comes along. So do you. Woman up!

Do It Anyway! 

P.S.

I hope my humor and refusal to be mediocre come through in these posts. Love that you are here on the journey with me! I like to mix a little country (since I’m from Louisiana) with a little everything. 🙂 

Being thankful

Being thankful

Today is Good Friday. If you’re of the Christian faith, that means a lot to you. If not, it’s still a good day to be alive. But, as I run my errands, I can’t help but be thankful. I’m thankful for my faith, for my life, for the peace I have, for the joy, for my boys, for possibilities. I pray you are in that same space. No matter what is going on, find your zone and get thankful. There is something about choosing joy and happiness that changes us, our moods, and eventually our environment.

What are you thankful for? Even if life sucks right now, find something. You’ll be amazed at what it will do for you.

Lastly, I’m so thankful for my God Who died for me and rose for me and you. If you need help, He’s there. Feel free to leave a prayer request below and I will pray with you.

Go on! Find your happy and walk in it! “But you don’t know what I’m going through Kaydy!” Yes, I do. Hold on and…

Do It Anyway!

Dream big!

Dream big!

If the dreams you have for you can be accomplished with little help and by your own hand, dream bigger. As you rest tonight, I hope you dream ridiculous dreams. Dreams so wild that when you rise you get to work on them! Dreams so huge you need faith and new connections to pull them off. You deserve to really see if you can do it because you can. So you know what, shake off the doubt, the fear, and the excuses and just DREAM BIG! 

This is your time.

Do It Anyway!

The Ugly Truth

The Ugly Truth

I absolutely lose it from time to time. “Really?”, you say. Yes. Parenting and single parenting are not easy. But, you already know that. Now, I don’t do crazy stuff, but I will go on a long monologue/diatribe/aside about my house and the lack of cleanliness therein (namely in the areas where “they” cluster). Then I feel bad. Does that happen to you? Dont worry. It’s not a test, and you don’t have to tell me (unless you want to). But I just want you to know- it’s okay. I have realized that part of parenting is not being able to control anybody but me. Sigh. I apologize and restate what I need them to do in small steps, because I know that is what they need. Most of the time that works. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Why am I sharing this on a Sunday night? Well, I want you single parents and married folk out there to know it is not just your kids who don’t get up on time, clean up, or do what you ask them to do. Sometimes, we can make ourselves feel bad or guilty for not having perfect kids or the perfect house. I want to say- STOP IT! My kids get on my nerves, too! I parent/fuss/get over it and then we move on. My neighbors can attest to my diatribes on my kids not putting on deodorant and the importance of brushing teeth. LOL! Yep, I’m still having that talk. You know what, it’s okay. Prepare all you can. I do. In fact, I’m mobilizing them now to get ready for in the morning. It may go off without a hitch or I may feel the “Warrior Princess” well up in me at 6:55 when no one has eaten breakfast and someone is missing shoes. But, you know what, my plan is to handle it better. We’ll see. I can’t promise anything. Life sure isn’t perfect. Kids will be kids until one day they finally get “it”. Until then, don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re doing great. And don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, you didn’t eat anything in the 1 hour you had? Sorry. It’s time to go now”. I bet they get up and eat on time the next day!

That’s my ugly truth. Yep! I’m human just like you! Love on you tonight. Organize all you can. Kiss your babies and get some rest!

Tomorrow may not be perfect.

Do It Anyway!

P.S.

Can you take a few minutes to tell me what you think?

Sunday Soul Renewal

Sunday Soul Renewal

This is post #2 on this topic. I think I will make it a weekly theme. Be sure to comment and let me know yay or nay if you want to keep seeing it around.

Sunday is a day to relax, recharge, and rethink. Right? It is definitely a day to worship. So, no where does it say mope, regret, or sulk. Once you’ve pondered your week and hit reset, it is important to let what didn’t work go. Carrying the messups or misfires from last week or yesterday with you only weighs you down, keeps your mind distracted, and masks how awesome you were at a million other things. I’m not saying blindly look over things that need to be resolved, but if you know the problem is over, yet you still beat yourself up about it, you need to let it go.

Today is reserved for rest, family, fun, and strategic planning. No wishing to change the past allowed. Only doing. So, what will you do with your today to make a better tomorrow? What will you adjust to rock it out next time? Do that. Think on that. Hey, life’s not perfect and neither are you!

Do It Anyway!

Accept what God allows

Accept what God allows

“Today is a new day! Yesterday is gone never to return again.”

Sounds great right! So, what do you do with the messes, breakups, wrong turns and shoulda woulda couldas? You leave them behind and live for what is now. You say a prayer and push forward for better. For all that is right in the world, you absolutely must accept that it happened. You just can’t let it hold you prisoner. Break free, loose, and fast!

The ugly truth is you may never know why in this life, and as hard as it is, that something happened. You must accept that. Accepting that sometimes there are no immediate answers will bless you in ways I can’t describe. In other words, accept what God allows.That doesn’t make God mean or unloving. (Oh! He loves you and has a plan) Yet, sometimes crap happens. Crap that we brought on ourselves, didn’t pay attention to, or that came our way unrequested. Either way, it was allowed for a reason and a season. Aren’t you glad it wasn’t forever!? Whew!

Listen, I don’t have all the answers, but what I do know is on the other side of the pain lies a whole new purpose. You’ve just got to make it through this.  For instance, I had some rocky years as a young single mom. No one knew it, but I cried almost every night. At the time, I still loved their dad (praise God for deliverance and learning what love is), and I had to deal with him, his women, and raise my babies. Talk about having it tough! But God kept me, helped me heal from the hurt, and now all that pain is tied to my purpose. I want to help you heal. Please know there is life left for you. And, it is glorious. So, accept what has been, let go, and lets move toward better. Amen? Amen.

It’s not easy, but the happy, healthy, and healed you is waiting. Come on! Let her out! She’s beautiful, brave, and bold!

Do It Anyway!

Self-Esteem. It’s not just a cool word.

Self-Esteem. It’s not just a cool word.

I had the pleasure of speaking to some young Tweens a few weeks ago. My topic was having great self-esteem and a winning attitude. It was amazing. It was amazing because I got to pour into them, but they also poured into me. I remember being their age and dreaming big. It was good to see their enthusiasm and then to hear them say from their mouths that they believed in themselves. I talked to them about “Do It Anyway!” – my motto for living. Whether they will remember that day or not remains to be seen. I hope they walked away loving themselves a little more and were encouraged to win no matter what life brings. We role-played and did Q&A’s. They were shy but we made it.

I won’t forget that day. I enjoyed sharing my wealth from the hard knocks of life. May you be inspired as well to love you fiercely, never take no as the final answer, and to chase every dream you know God has given you.

Some folks may never see the beauty you are. That’s okay. Love you anyway. You may not win every challenge. Try anyway! Doing your best every time may be hard. Do It Anyway!
Some one needs your light, your energy, your talent. Share it anyway!