4 Signs you are too busy for your own good

4 Signs you are too busy for your own good

Have you noticed that although you are very busy, you are not getting as much done? Or, in other words, you are being busy, but you are not being effective. I have, and it is costly. Don’t get me wrong, we all have stuff that must get done. What I’m saying is learning what needs to get done now and what can get done later has to constantly be evaluated for you to be effective. There will always be interruptions. Get over it. But, every interruption is not a pivotal task to complete right now. Women, especially pride themselves on being mulit-taskers. I tout this all the time myself. But, really I’m tired. Lol. I would really like to not have to do 5 things at once all the time. I just want to do one. And what ensues when we are too busy is what the post is about.

I said to myself, “I have to start sorting these tasks”, and I did. I thought about what is priority and listed them. Then I decided which ones have to get done and which ones can wait. My life isn’t perfect, but if you have any of these signs, you gotta take a chill pill.

I have come up with 4 Signs you are doing too much or rather, how being busy is stealing your life.

1. Your mind is constantly going

Ever had this one? You go to bed but cant sleep? Your mind is racing and you cant turn it off? Yep. You are officially doing too much and need to stop it now. I had this when I was working on my Masters in Spanish. A million things to do, kids to raise, my job to plan and do, etc. Don’t mention housework and feeding myself and children. It was hectic. Until I (this was my cure) prayed. Yep. I prayed. I said to God to help me balance my life and get some sleep. From then I learned to list what I could do and start deciding what had to be done an what could wait. Oh, and of course prayer works every time!
2. You are tired, cranky, and forgetful

If you are here, you’ve got to take a 10 minute step away at least from what you are doing and “woosah”. Barking at people won’t get the tasks done. It will get you unliked quickly. We don’t want that. Get some rest. Lay the list down. I have found that when we get to forgetting things, we are going 100 miles an hour and we should be going 20. Calm down. Take a break. Maybe even a day to get clarity on what you need to do and what can wait. Only you know, but spare us the attitude. We got lists, too.
3. You know you don’t want to do the thing but can’t say NO

Oh this one right here is golden. Yes, we women especially have the inability to say this two letter word at any given moment- NO. But it is so simple and brings so much peace. Yet, we struggle. Let me tell you, if you are here, you’ve got to stop taking care of and saving everybody else’s projects and fix your own. I don’t care what it is, if you are tired, full to the brim with stuff to do, say NO! Nothing good will come of you overworking yourself but you overworking yourself. When you have to take a week off because you’re sick then what? Ok. That was extreme. Surely, you won’t get so run down from working that you wear yourself into a vacation with no fun in it? Say No instead of yes to everything that comes your way, it’ll bless you and they will find a way to still get it done. I promise.  #experience
4. Your schedule is bulging at the seams

You can look at your phone calendar and see it. Your legal pad is full. You are overwhelmed and your schedule has no room. Look, working is good. Providing for your family is good. Going all the time is not good. You’ve got to learn to balance. It is very interesting that God built in a Sabbath. He knew we would try to overdo it. So, He commanded us to rest. If you can’t keep up and you’re kind of mad about it, let something go. Sure, folks don’t like to hear “no”, but they’ll live. Rest. God said so!

Well, did any of these resonate with you? If so, “stop what you’re doing cause you’re about to ruin”…your life! Chill out! Take a chill pill. Let it go. Do you! Being busy is not winning. BEING PRODUCTIVE IS WINNING. Learn the difference.

On the road of life, it get’s tough. Schedules get hectic. Life is busy. But, guess what? You will make it!

Do It Anyway!

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Encouraging thoughts for a discouraging time

Encouraging thoughts for a discouraging time

Encouragement has been hard for me to muster this week. I am usually the first to be bright-eyed and positive. I always have a word for those in need. But, this week was hard for me. Since it was hard for me, I know that it has also been for so many of you. Clearly the issues in the Middle East affecting persecuted Christians, the shooting death of a young black man in Ferguson, MO, and countless other issues in our world affected me. (Maybe they also affected you) As a Christian, my heart hurts for people period. I have and had a deep hurt that just wouldn’t/won’t leave for what is happening to women and children and people period all due to their personal religious beliefs. As an African American woman who is a parent, seeing what happened in Ferguson over the weekend and waiting on confirmation of what happened had me on edge. I was sad for the family, angered by what happened, afraid for my children growing up in a world that shoots before asking questions, etc. I mean, isn’t it normal to hurt for people you don’t know? Well, I think so. I have to live in this world, my kids do, you do and your loved ones. It is outrageous! We should all be upset. Most of us are.

I was so sad that I had to leave social media and pray. In prayer, I was able to remember that GOD truly has all things under control and it is in Him that I put my trust. I know my situation is not that of the parents mourning the loss of their child or the citizens who feel like prisoners in their own city, or the thousands fleeing their homes for fear of death. But, the impact of their trials affected me. It saddened me. My spirit was low. I wanted to help my brothers and sisters. What I could do in that moment was pray. I prayed and that encouraged me. I am so thankful that God is there no matter in what situation we find ourselves. I am so glad that His word is a “lamp to our feet and a light to our path” (Psalm 119:05). His word is life, encouragement, air. So, I come today with no solution to actual problems. I cannot bring anyone back, I cannot provide safety to those who have lost it all, but I can pray that the ONE who has the solution and is able to hide us in His secret place will do so. He can hide us in His arms, in His secret place (Psalm 91).

I have to believe that justice will be served in this life. As in past cases, when it is not, we go on peacefully trying to change laws to protect us and spread awareness to help others. But, we know that in the life to come, God says vengeance is Mine, I shall repay. And it is in that I put my hope. It is not ours to decide what we go through, but we know somehow we will make it. Just knowing that God has it under control puts me at ease. I can keep doing my best in a world that doesn’t always treat people the way they should. I can continue raising my boys to be the best citizens I can and yet teach them to protect themselves against possible police brutality, abuse, misuse of power. I can encourage someone today who is down because I have been and now have hope. Let this be your encouragement in the midst of your day. God will provide. Put your hope in Jesus for He cares for you.

5 Reasons to Do Nothing Today

5 Reasons to Do Nothing Today

We all know life is synonomous with busy especially for us moms (single and not). I have learned in the last few years, however, that being busy isn’t always being productive. So, recently, I decided to take a week off from my usual up “all night creating” while I was at a family reunion in Atlanta Well, I only touched my writing once (that was huge btw). Oh my gosh! It felt like I was living again. I mean not that I don’t have my fair share of “inserted” fun, but this was different. I had no “work” on my schedule. At all. I met so many new family members, got to sight see, and I got rest. Who knew rest was important! (Inserts chuckle)

So, I think you should learn from this self-professed busyer and take a break today. Come on. Try it! Here are 5 reSons I found in Atlanta.

Reason #1:
You will see life differently.
It’s sad, but I miss being present in the moment. I have so many goals that a lot of times I’m there physically but mentally I’m creating a list- to do. It felt good to breathe and see and touch life without a list to complete.

Reason #2:
You will enjoy things you forgot you liked.
So, working a lot had caused me to forget that I actually like to fall out laughing with family well into the wee hours of night. It was rejuvenating to connect like that. There was volleyball, kickball, dominoes, spades, etc. Fun! And, I was a part of it all.

Reason #3:
You will find rest.
In all my up all night action,I also rested. It was good for mind, body, and soul. I slept well and later than usual. Relationships were formed with old and new family members. I was able to relax and get to know everyone without the pressure of work on my mind. I had a calm and a peace talking to family.

Reason #4:
You will be recharged and find strength to dream again.
After taking my break and enjoying life, I came home ready to work again. I feel like I have more ideas and am even more creative. Doing nothing work related did me good.

Reason #5
You will find peace in the quiet.
There was a peace I grabbed onto in the sleeping hours that I can’t explain. It’s akin to the warm kitchen at grandma’s in the winter time with the table full of goodies on Christmas day.

Now, I’m sure your reasons will be different. But, this was my experience. What I do know is you won’t find them unless you give yourself the gift of nothing today. Be good to you.

Sure work needs doing. Find a good stopping place and Do It Anyway.